Today was a make up day. Truly a makeup day for many reasons. It all started yesterday.
Over the weekend I had gone through the sale ads for all 4 grocery stores and made up the dinner menu for the rest of most of the month. I had made a grocery list with the items, prices and how many of things I wanted. But I didn't total the lists. If I had, yesterday could have been avoid.
I started by dropping hubby off, going to Kum and Go and getting myself a big tea. I had a doctor's appointment where I was meeting with my primary about the bloody mucus when I was pooping on Saturday. So I hadn't drank any pop since that day and since she would be listening to my bowels, I didn't want her to blame any noises on me drinking that.
The appointment went well, she wasn't overly concerned but still thought I needed a colonoscopy, just as I thought. So she ordered that. I told her about the one other thing that was going on, even though I thought it had nothing to do with it but when you watch those medical shows on cable, the oddest symptoms they don't mention turn out to be clues to the really weird diseases, so I mentioned it. The pinkie and finger next to it on my right hand are partially numb. Started a couple of weeks ago when I leaned on my elbows sitting at the dinner table. And the feeling hasn't returned. So I told her. She checked me out and did some stuff. She told me that she thinks I may have carpel tunnel and it's not related. Get a wrist brace and try it out for a month. If the feeling doesn't come back, she will refer me to someone.
So then I sat in the parking lot and read for a little while. I'm really into these Joanne Fluke books, I can't get enough! And most of the recipes sound great! But I was just not in a hurry to do all the shopping. So hubby calls. I tell him what the doc said and then we talked. I ended up getting lunch for us and taking it over to him. He sounded like he could use some food. After lunch, I started my shopping.
I started at Albertson's. It was just around the corner from hubby's school. I spent about an hour and a half there. There were having some coupon sales for really cheap and I ran all over the stores looking for everything. They had pork products, meats, on sale for $1.88 a pound. I got a lot. They were out of the chicken that was a great deal with no rain checks being offered. I used my list as a guideline for all the stuff I was getting, but ended up getting more. The bill was high and I still had 4 more stores to go to. But hubby's voice was in my head, telling me not to cheap out on him. He was tired if eating casseroles and wanted meat for dinner. So on I went.
I went to Walmart next, being as it was the farthest store. I needed to get the wrist brace and cookie pans. 3 of my cookie pans had disappeared and neither of the guys admitted to stashing them somewhere, so I bought 3 of them, the large ones. They were $4 each. I also bought 3 skeins of really pretty rose yarn. I got a Wonder Woman pattern in my size, so someday I can make the costume and surprise hubby with it. I think she is sexy! I got a couple of other things too. That was a lot of money that I hadn't planned on.
I went to Sprout's. They had stewing beef and beef roasts for $4.99 a pound. I was excited and bought all 7 pounds of stewing beef. And several roasts. Then I bought several other things and that bill came to a lot. I was getting concerned but still I heard hubby's voice in my head and decided to not worry about it and just follow the lists.
I stopped at Safeway. They were out of some of their ad stuff but I found enough to ring up a large bill. I was getting mostly meat.
I came to King Soopers, where I was getting mostly small items but still found the London Broils on sale for $3.99 a pound. I got 3 at a little over 3 pounds each. Then that bill came up to a lot. At this point I was running short on time so left directly to go pick up hubby.
I got to the school and went inside. Hubby was still working, not off for about another 10 minutes. I got out my receipts and added them up. I was expecting the total to be around $300. It came out to $518 and some change. I was floored. But I didn't react. When hubby shut down and asked me how much I had spent, I told him and he went postal. He shouted and yelled and said he didn't want to see me. He demanded I leave him at work and go home. He wasn't sure he would even come home. I didn't react. I agreed with him that it was irresponsible and I was wrong. I spent over half his paycheck. I apologized. He didn't want to hear it. But I didn't leave. I went into the back and stayed back there, reading, until he was done. Then he came back and said that he would go home with me, and Frank could help me unload the car, but then he was taking the car and leaving. He couldn't stand the sight of me. I said that was fine, I understood.
It was a silent ride home. When we got there, he got Frank and Frank helped me.. Hubby did help bring some stuff in, I think to see what I had gotten. It wasn't much for $500, I'll tell you. Then he changed, smoked a cigarette with Frank and left.
Eventually I closed and locked the front door. Right after I did that, he came back and knocked on the door. I opened it and he came back in. He had wanted to leave, go get dinner and think about what he wanted to do from there, but he went to the bank and put all his money in to cover a bill that came in that day, so he had no money to go eat. We sat and talked. I told him what was going through my head. That he was tired of my trying to stretch the food budget and make things that showed off my culinary skills by making food that would fill us and were nutritionally sound, but not meat and potatoes. That he told me that his mother all made sure they ate well, no matter how poor they were and you bought food first, then paid the bills with what was left. So I purposely didn't pay attention to how much I was spending. I put it out of my mind. I was trying to make him happy. I bought mostly meat. Not a whole lot of other things, but we had meat, and steaks.
He explained that he felt that he was like his father and I put him in that position. His father was so hard on his mother about money, but his mother was a spend-aholic that put them in the poor house. And he didn't want to feel that way. He was so flabbergasted at the amount I spent that he didn't know how to act. And he wanted to make sure this never happened again. I told him I would go back to doing what I had been doing, and he said he wanted me to find a happy compromise between the two. Pay attention and try to stay within a budget, but a little bit bigger budget. Still follow the sales and plan the menu, but we can do a mix of casseroles and meat and potatoes. We kissed and made up.
Then he went down to his office to smoke a lot of pot and get really high. For a couple of hours. He said he wouldn't take up smoking cigarettes again, I told him that was good. I went upstairs to watch tv and read until he was ready to come up.
A couple of hours later, he came upstairs and we watched an episode of Project Catwalk on YouTube. It's Project Runway's UK cousin show. I love this show! Then we turned off the lights and started to go to sleep. Then he started asking me if I got this and did I get that. All he asked me I told him No. I got mostly meat. Then we went to sleep.
This morning I had a doctor's appointment with the dermatologist for a skin check at 840am. He woke me up and wished me well. I got dressed and left. When I got back, he was ready for work. We talked a little, he apologized for freaking out and asked me if we were ok. I said we were. And he left for work.
I spent most of my day reading outside in the swing. Then I made dinner, chicken breasts baked with fried rice. I sat with Frank while he ate, then sat with hubby when he came home and ate. Frank really liked dinner, hubby thought it was ok but wouldn't eat any fried rice. We were ok but he was still a little tense. But then he went into his office for a couple of hours and came out relaxed.
Tomorrow we have my appointment with my shrink, Dr Fouss. That's another $150 since he doesn't do insurance and we have to pay him out of pocket. We are going to try to see if the insurance will reimburse us a portion of his bill this time.
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